Classroom Talk
Fall 2001 Archive
Ouch!.....Hmmmmmmm....Ouch! Posted by Bruce on November 26, 2001 at 16:22:00:
In Reply to: The point . . . in some detail. posted by The small kahuna on November 21, 2001 at 21:23:07:
John,
Thanks again for your wisdom and expertise. I look forward to every one
of your posts because each one both edifies and awakens me. Your
concluding sign off stung me, however, when you wrote, "Peace and
Harmony...if you can." Hmmmmm......... I'm guessing you consciously
stung here for "our own good."
This raises an interesting question as to whether or not one can in
freedom "choose to sting" someone (kind of like growling but not
biting)?? In the Sally drama, I played with some options as to how to
respond to her stinger. My first reaction (all personality here) was to
minimize, suppress, rationalize, and withdraw (Doormat stuff?). Then I
was over it and willing to "shine it on". Live and let live. Let bygone
be bygones. Then you kinda beckoned me to respond and so after waiting
two weeks I felt obliged to say something about the stinger. If you
didn't beckon me I would have been happy to happily await your Jigsaw
Wheelbook Puzzle exercise. "Take a chill pill---all you need is love"
was my way "freely" given response to your request to check in with you
and tell you how the stinger affected me. I'm not defending (he-he)here
I'm just sharing with you my cognitive point of view at the time that
post was written.
I do believe I processed my hurt/anger/resentful feelings that were
evoked by Sally's stinger. I did skimp a bit on that one and I am
waking up to how much I can benefit by "processing feelings in full." I
did skimp on processing my impatience with you, too, as I
was "patiently waiting" for your next Jigsaw Puzzle installment. Being
from the tribe of "Good Men in a Hurry" I was and still am eager for
you to get on with that valuable exercise. What irritated me about the
Sally Drama was that it distracted you from getting on with what for me
is the most important part of the Awareness Game: using the wheel to
become more effective, loving, and joy-creating with others. Lou hinted
that Your Stuff may have popped up when you went into the spontaneous
stuff of the day instead of proceeding with the Jigsaw Puzzle exercise.
I don't know but I will say I will be disappointed if you don't follow
thru with this Wheelbook Jigsaw Puzzle. My favorite play in football is
the play-action pass: the quarterback acts as if he's going to hand the
ball to a running back and suckers the defense to defend against the
run while he hides the ball and proceeds to pass the ball downfield to
the fooled, tricked, and often embarassed defense. It struck me that
you "bit" on Sally's play action fake and perhaps she scored one on all
of us?? Or maybe you're running a play fake all of your own. What I do
know is the Wheelbook Work as used in the Awareness Game promises to
empower me to live in freedom, forgiveness, and love; hence, my hope is
you complete the puzzle.
I have a lot to learn and am working on "processing my feelings"
without skimping on them. Just making a cognitive confession to myself
that for example, there's anger, doesn't really process it and remove
its energy from my body.
Can it be that simple? When I read the entire Kindergarten and
Playground literature I was shocked that the section on Authentic
Communication and other advice for handling stingers was so "skimpy." I
would like for you to expatiate on how and why those pearls " I see."
"I would like it if____" etc...really work.
Still in a hurry,
Bruce
This work is SOLID FOOD! and I am HUNGRY!!!!!
Love covers a multitude of sins. I love you, John, the wisdom and power
that is in you as you. I'm Grateful to be here! Sally, I have not put
you out of my Heart!
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