Classroom Talk
Winter 2002 Archive
No escape. Posted by John on March 06, 2002 at 17:22:34:
In Reply to: Re: Once the brick has hit your foot . . . posted by Douglas on March 06, 2002 at 02:57:35:
>for I am more of an Escape Artist than a Con Artist.
The escape artist *is* the Con Artist, Douglas! On the Personality "Wheel, the Con Artist is *the specialist* in "getting away with it." (Look at Enron.)
Not being the "escape artist" would be to sit with it, like a brick in your lap, that you sometimes (without knowing it or intending it) do attempt to
force your various kinds of affections on other people, without leaving them free space to choose. — And . . . to realize that fantasy just doesn't
work in the real world.
This is my notion as a coach. When you give up escaping from that reality, and experience it, and *understand* it, you will become vastly freer and
more powerful in all of the undertakings that you like and love. Give up "that fantasy"—you know the fantasy I mean—and you will have a huge
amount of freed-up energy suddenly at your disposition, that was all being wasted before! When you can outsmart that conditioned pattern that has
apparently, as you suggest, had ahold of you since the days of your childhood, and deal with it in the real world as it is manifesting today, you *will*
unlearn the lessons that have been, apparently, getting in your way, making you suffer, and spoiling your great life for you. That's my notion, at least.
>Sally
>Sally
The conditioning of some of our fantasies is *so powerful*. All we can do is ask our Selves honestly, "What is the possible wounding effect of this on
the other person?" And, not one in a million of us, without specialized training and a supreme amount of courage, would think to even ask our Selves
a truly spiritual question like that.
With tears in my eyes, for I can put myself in that kind of a prison, too, Douglas. And so might we all. The conditioning of our affections is sure a *
tough* one for any of us to have to deal with genuinely lovingly, to be free at last.
Coach
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