Classroom Talk
Fifth and Sixth Grades Archive
Re: "Tis better to have loved and lost . . ."
Posted by Rakesh on 01/26/2003 02:28:44
In reply to "Tis better to have loved and lost . . ." posted by John on 01/24/2003 19:41:56
Hi Coachji,
The silver lining is that you are not suffering; the suffering most of
us have had to put up with one time or the other after "falling in love"
when we were asleep all the time.
A few more things.
Unless one has turned a hermit, this sort of thing is unavoidable even
for a mindful warrior if they are living in this world. So it is O.K. to
be human once in a while, to fall and to get up again.
The important thing, as you very rightly point out, is the lesson you
learn every time you have an episode, an event which disturbs/disrupts
your existing life situation.
However, I would like you to reconsider the use of word -- rejected. It
is a rather loaded word. Maybe as kids we rejected each other or that
bully in the rival team, that jerk, that stalker etc. But as we grow up,
we tend to be more practical. Personal likes and dislike do not matter
much. We go along or fall apart depending upon whether our interests are
in tune or they clash. So it all boils down to perception, persuit of
self-interest and several other known or UNKNOWN factors. In these
circumstances, to say that one has been rejected by someone or the other
way round -- that is one has rejected someone else -- does not seem to
describe the "isness" of it; so me thinks. By using the word "rejected"
we perhaps are taking things too personally, when the reality is usually
entirely different.
Best regards,
Rakesh
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